Reconciling Attachment Security and Erotic Desire in Couples.
Тhe first seminar of Esther Perel in Bulgaria on Erotic Intelligence
Why doesn’t good intimacy guarantee good sex? Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever? Can we want what we already have? Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster?
Loss of Desire brings many people into the offices of therapists and psychologists world wide. It is the prime sexual complaint that leads relational unhappiness, infidelity and even divorce. For the most part, sexuality has been relegated to sex therapy and couple therapy has become a desexualized practice. Yet, love in our digital age puts sex at the centre of couples’ lives.
Join Esther Perel, as she shares her bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex that shakes up traditional thinking about keeping desire alive in a long-term relationships.
The up-coming seminar of Esther Perel Erotic Intelligence: Reconciling Security and erotic desire in romantic partnerships will examine some of the important topics such as how to connect the love and desire, and when and why they are in conflict, how our needs for security and proximity can co-exist with our needs of freedom and personal space, what is erotic: the quality of vitality in a relationship or a rich repertoire of sexual techniques, frequency and performance.
Erotic Intelligence seminar will examine the cultural pressures that shaped our idea of home sex and explore mysterious inverse relationship between greater emotional intimacy and loss of sexual desire. Contrary to popular belief, sexual problems are not always the result of problems in the relationship and improving emotional connection can do little to improve sex.
The seminar will further address the blocks to eroticism including the fear of abandonment or of entrapment and how our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprints and how to map the connections between partners’ attachment orientation and their sexual feelings and behaviours. Commonly further sexual stalemates include the familial feelings that lead to the de-sexualization of partners, and the guilt and worry that preclude the pursuit of pleasure. Also addressed is the role of fantasy and imagination as well as sex after kids.
Throughout the seminar, Esther Perel will introduce innovative strategies to help couples unlock sexual blocks, take emotional risks and enhance their erotic bond. She will show how to grant the body its profound capacities for emotional expressiveness reaching beyond intimacy as mere verbal communication.
Combining formal teaching, clinical case examples, and video vignettes we will probe the bonds and conflicts between love and desire.
The workshop draws on attachment and psychoanalytic theory as well as on family systems, and body oriented approaches.. This model applies to married and unmarried, heterosexual and same sex couples.
Who is this workshop for
In view of the Esther Perel’s desire to work with professionals who can apply their learning directly in their work with clients, this seminar is for psychologists and psychotherapists for whom the topic will have an importance. In case you want to join the workshop and you do not have a psychological background please contact us what is your motivation to participate, to make sure that the seminar would meet your needs.
Mating in Captivity:
Reconciling Attachment Security and Erotic Desire in Couples
When: 28 October 2013, 13:00 – 17:00 and 29 October 09:00 – 19:00
Participation Fee: 100 Euro